One day last week I arrive at your school to pick you up and found you fighting against Emmett who was forcefully trying to kiss you. You held him at arm's length for as long as you could, and when he broke through you roughly pushed him away.
I'm always surprised by these every-day situations that have clear ramifications for the future.
As we headed to the car, I thought about what to say to you. I ended up telling you that no one should kiss you if you don't want them to. I told you it was okay to tell Emmett 'no' and that you did didn't want him to kiss you.
It was very important for me to be clear about that.
But then I went on to suggest that Emmett has been your friend for a long time, and maybe you could use your words more to say, "No, I don't want you to do that" instead of shoving him away. You didn't say much about it but agreed, "Okay."
Since them I have replayed how I saw him physically MAKE you let him kiss you, and I have replayed my words to you over and over. He was being so forceful at that point that he might not have paid attention to your words. Maybe he deserved that rude shove, long-time friend or not. Maybe he needs to get the message loud and clear now while he is still young and malleable.
Am I overreacting to this? I can't tell.
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